After marriage couples abuse each other more than anyone else would have abused them in life, why? ?

Is it that they take one another for granted?


Why can鈥檛 they mutually respect each other?


After marriage couples abuse each other more than anyone else would have abused them in life, why? ?
When people cannot freely choose their marriage partners and remain together only under familial and social threats, this is a disaster either waiting to explode or to implode (abuse of each other)... If people are treated (bought and sold) like animals, they will inevitably behave like animals... I have heard the argument that ';marriage systems'; of arranged marriages are successful: however, being put together and staying together because of overwhelming outside pressure is NOT love, but look at the negative results...After marriage couples abuse each other more than anyone else would have abused them in life, why? ?
It's because they feel they OWN each other, and there's really no love there. Ur parents love u, even though it doesn't seem like it at times, because they gave birth to u, raised u, and well, ur mom bore u for a time. Ur dad's seed is a part of u. So ur their blood. No one can maliciously harm their own blood(ok, there are cases, but rare), but hubbys and wifeys, well, they don't love each other that strongly, it's lust, then they love things about each other, then there might even be kids together, and then, well, they might be in a rut. So they feel they can abuse, because in front of God, u said u are each other's property...and well...no one really bothers to see what that really means, and take it at face value...and treat each other worse than they would their family pets(at times).
Actually when 2 people live together, they sometimes fight on small things, they just get irritated with each other, as it is very difficult to share your life with someone else, after a fight, slowly they again start talking and loving each other, it is just a phase, not serious fight.
Uh...





My husband and I don't abuse each other, disrespect each other, or take each other for granted.





What's with the untrue generalizations?
abuse... hmm... i dont think its normal to abuse each other.





all married couples argue, all married couples get mad and blame each other for things... thats normal.






EGO. Each one wants to show that they are the BOSS. Old people kindle their children before marriage telling them not yield to the other or rest of your life the other person will be the BOSS.
yes they get mad and fight every single minute but theres lots of love in that fight too. thats not abuse anger is the most childish expression of love
I often find that the people that love each other a whole lot hate each other the most when it's over..
What on earth lead you to that conclusion?

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