Couples counseling in abusive relationship?

I read somewhere that couple's counseling doesn't help if one person is abusive. Is this true, and if so, why?Couples counseling in abusive relationship?
Because someone who is an abuser is sick they need to get help. The spouse who is the victim is the drug. Beating someone is what feeds the sickness. It's kind of like a recovering alcoholic who runs a bar. No matter how much counseling the alcoholic has received there is always temptation at work and it can wear even the strongest will down. Couples counseling in abusive relationship?
it is like trying to row a boat with one orr, it just goes in circles
No that is not true. Why not, because no one can make a blanket statement like that without knowing each and every individual who has done it.. If you are both willing to go, I certainly think it is well worth the effort to try!! good luck...
IT HELPS IF THE ABUSIVE PERSON REALIZES THEY ARE ABUSIVE AND GETS ANGER MANAGEMENT HELP. THE OTHER PERSON HAS TO FIGURE OUT IF THEY CAN FEEL SAFE DURING THIS TIME, AND IT WILL TAKE TIME.


YOU MAY WANT TO STAY WITH FRIENDS OR FAMILY DURING THIS TIME. IT WILL TAKE A LOT OF WORK TOGETHER OR IT WON'T WORK.
get out. screw counseling. abusive people don't change. they claim to ';change'; or ';find God';, but it's a load of sh*t. my stepfather claimed to change, and a few years later, tried to suffocate my mother.
Abusers don't change EVER. It only gets worse. Get out while you can and forget about him ever changing! He won't.





Whoever gave a thumbs down to that is obviously an abusuer or thinks abuse is ok. LOSER.
Abusers very rarely change. Has he admitted that he is abusive? That would have to be the first step of MANY if the relationship were to work out. Some might say they've changed and change their behavior for a while but they don't stay that way. They just do it to get you back. I've heard some women say that their partner is nice, they just have some bad days and behave like jerks when the opposite is actually true. They're jerks who sometimes have good days when it suits them. I would say forget about counseling. Don't waste your time and money. Start the healing process now and move forward. Read books and concentrate on yourself. It's a tough road but a very rewarding one. Good luck.