What do you think about quarrels between couples?

We quarrel sometime.


What do you think about it?


Will it do some good to our relationship?


When we quarrel,is there something we can not say?What do you think about quarrels between couples?
Totally normal. It will do some good if you are actually quarreling about the right topic. Many people argue about seemingly stupid things when the real topic is more important. Finding the real issue is where the work comes in. Are there things you shouldn't say? Of course, lots of men accuse women of having memories like elephants and bringing up past arguments. Not a good idea, stick to the topic. Women accuse men of stomping off when they get frustrated. Also not a good idea. I think if you avoid name calling and stick to the topic until you have some sort of resolution, all quarrels can be a positive way to learn about each other.What do you think about quarrels between couples?
quarrels are quite common in relationships.... but one should have a mind set of forgiving or atleast being calm...
its enevitable. all couples will have disagreements at times. the main thing is you stay within proper game rules thats no name calling or bringing up old stuff that you know is not the problem at hand stay focus on what the subject is and don't get into playing dirty pool. even good marriages have there times . so dont' worry . and the makeup sessions will be ooh la la hehe so now and then its okay to stir up the pot and keep things alive . and a fire in your belly as they say.
well i think that quarrels are something that sometimes cant be prevented.... i mean theres always something but if u guys can work it all out without going to extremes than its cool and u guys really love each other.. same with any other relationship..
Every couple has their times where they argue. As long as there is no physical, verbal, or mental abuse, it's fine. If it gets to the point where you thinks its a problem, try taking some time away from each other. I don't mean a long time. I just mean you go hang with your girls for a day and let him go hang with his guys. Maybe you're spending too much time together. Just don't go to bed mad at each other.
All couples argue from time to time, and it does make a relationship stronger, but if this happens every single day there could be a promblem and that is not good, when you are argueing you should never say something that you really don't mean, that your saying out of anger cause it could make thing worse...think before you speak..
After the quarrel tell him you still love him !!!


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Quarreling is never beneficial. It changes who your children are. You need to work on compromises. Negotiate the things that you quarrel about when you are not angry.





Why do we quarrel with the ones we love and treat others we work with, go to school with, etc. better? It is a mystery to me.
quarrels are normal between couples.


sometimes it does good - makes you realize how much you love your spouse.


don't hurt your spouse.
Quarrelling is always bad for a relationship because it makes people like each other less.





It's best to maintain good relations and negotiate in order to find mutually acceptable agreements. Of course, it takes two to have a fair discussion. And if one of the partners is not being fair, then it won't work.





Perhaps people sometimes are simply in a bad mood. And occasional quarrels cannot be avoided. But I wouldn't say that such quarrels are good for their relationship.





How can people not treating each other well be good?
Quarrelling is what couples do when they're not happy - could be with their work, or after a rough day, or if you're depressed because of the weather, anything can trigger it - you then push all the right buttons to annoy the other, the other one does the same, it's great fun!





Recommendation: read Barbara Pease's books - ';Why men lie and women cry'; at I think there is another one, they're great, they identify what's really going on behind the scenes and allows you to understand why you behave certain ways.





Remember: the things that you argue about are NOT the things that are actually problematic, they are just the things that you know you can argue about because they'll annoy the other person. don't focus on the subject of the dispute, it really is just an excuse to have an argument.
just end it a good note and try not to let things linger.
Fighting needs to happen for a relationship to be happy and successful





Venting ones frustrations and issues is psychologically healthy... and if you cant do that with your most intimate friend, who can you do it with?





No two people are 100% perfect for one another. There are always issues and disagreement. They need to be discussed and perhaps they will lead to a fight.





But fights are a show of passion, they spark passion... and passion is healthy.





The truth is there is no such thing as a fairy tail ending. Relationship take work and effort and are not always fun... plenty of pains. Those who are diluted enough to think a happy relationship, a soul mate, will give them no trouble whatsoever is only dooming themselves to never have a successful relationship.





Acknowledging and discussing your issues as a couple is the only way to work them out... the only way to progress beyond them and make the relationship stronger.





Furthermore, differences, the things that make you hate each other, the things that make you fight... are the things that compliment each other... the things that make each of you a better person, the things that make the couple stronger than the sum of its parts.





I personally would get bored without a little conflict. I dont want my life partner to be a clone of me.





Fighting is inevitable... so why base the future of your relationship on it?
It keeps the relationship healthy, it shows you both care, it allows any resentments to be aired


No holds barred
I am in the same position as you, but I am a self-confessed argumentative person! I honestly think that if we didn't argue, some of the things that come out in an argument wouldn't be said. I think that an arguement clears the air. There is, obviously, a line which people should not step over (I probably step that line about one a week!), but I think that this is just because I am passionate about him! Now, I can't speak on behalf of everyone, but this really does apply to my relationship; I think it is due to lack of experience in a relationship, and being so much in love that we argue the way we do. I know; it's very ironic!
Honestly? It's good for your relationship. Not only does it make a relationship stronger it teaches you and your partner what buttons to push and what buttons not to push. When you fight refrain from saying things that you don't mean. Everyone does it but then most people end up going back and apologizing and the quarrel ends up worse in the long run. SO if there is something that you KNOW will be a stab, DON';T say it! :) It's for the best not to, it might make you feel better to take the stab, but it will end up hurting your partner and then you will feel bad about it.
It is good to fight sometimes. Shows you're not in a abusive relationship. But if you're fighting ALL THE TIME, then you should go get help from a theripist.
When we spend so much time with someone its normal to have quarrels.





Its better to say whats wrong, rather than keeping it in and letting it build up.





Its all part of communication which is essential for a good relationship.





You should have the quarrel and then let it go - don't bear malice.





You should never leave the house, or let your partner leave the house without making up though........
if a couple manages to survive a quarrel their love for each other will grow and grow each time, but many fall and break up because they lack to see the good in it. quarreling will settle differnces and make you more understanding about your lover and more tolerant.
i think its healthy, especially if children learn that after a quarrell there is a resolution. i know when i was young my parents argued and they split up no resolution. no two people are the same so there will be some conflict at times. best part of arguing is the making up- say no more lol
as long as you both act like adults and dont scream throughout the neighbourhood, and try to sort things out before bedtime, and try to clear the air, not let the row drag on for days,
I agree with the latin person above


quarrells show uswhat the other person thinks or acts upon differently to ourselves but the most important part of a quarrell for a couple is the accepting, compromising, forgiving and making up afterwards, it makes us aware of each other and also makes us appreciate our partner.
Not tOo suprisingly !! They must take place at one time or another !! ? !!. also my OPINION is if a couple does'nt have any ole`, thing to let out some steam over or about.. Some of it may be taken out on the spouse !! mainly in-part I guess because the mate that the other party should feel most closely attached!?! I guess at times just may not be certain of how to let off steam!?! There`,fore the mate may get the worst part of the stress that the other feels!?! Wish I had a better suggestion !?! G/L~!!! ';R';r,r'r`r.r`,- %26lt;btw%26gt; Ifor when quarrels take place either with friends,family%26lt;SPOUSE%26gt; I hope after some cooling down period.. that both would be willing to try %26amp; solve things first !! rather than feeling it may be best to just part!!!
Me and my hubby Quarrel. It lets it out whats bugging you.


Moppong about and not saying is what kills a relationship.


Happily married/ Quarreling 8 years and two beautiful children 4 and 1. The making up is the best!!!!!!
Yes, do not argue about past issues. I am a 20 year veteran of marriage. You can't say ';you always'; or words like never. You only talk about the issue at hand.
its totally normal! It shows you both have different viewpionts and teaches you how to meet in the middle and better understand each other. The only thing about fighing is that you should never cut each other down. If you feel he did something wrong, explain why it hurt you, but dont shatter his ego doing it.